In this essay I will address the good old “who, what, when, why, and how” regarding relationships. This matter relates to many as most of us want to be intimate with someone else… companionship.

Who?
Is there a “one”, and if so how do we find them? I mean most of us of us have thoughts like this. To answer this, I say possibly. I truly believe that the one for you, is the one who is you, at the time. Say you’re a kid, fresh into the school itself. The one for you is the other kid who meets that same energy and mindset you have. Same for any place, age, or mindset. The one is the person that is you at the time. This can change, as we change, which is why people need to grow. The problem here is people grow at different paces and calculate their reasoning differently than their partner does when encountering different environments. If you account for change, anybody could be the one, but the one for you is the one you have great energy with and a similar growth mindset. Now that we have the “who” you should be with, let’s answer “what”.

What?
In my opinion, it doesn’t matter who you choose, as long as you like them and you’re willing to grow together. A part of this like is the outside appearance. To this, I say get what you want if you can, and accept what you can’t. For example, if you are only attracting short guys, I’m not saying you should stop going for tall guys, but you might want to start considering accepting a short guy.

When?
I honestly believe this doesn’t matter in this regard. People fi nd love at all ages and stages of life. To this, I say be open. Focus on yourself and growing to be the best you can, but always keep your options open if you truly want a partner. Stay social, and make dating a priority in your life. In due time, statistically, somebody will come. That person, you should date and learn so eventually…

Why?
You should marry, or at the least, have a life partner ( and boldly agree to whatever terms you or you all want and always be willing to negotiate them over time as things change/come up). If I were to make an argument for this, I would say, because companionship IS all its cracked up to be and it makes YOU a better person. That’s all I have. It’s hard to make any more assertions because relationships are complex and it’s hard to find great examples. It’s even hard to accept this notion if you have ever entered one and it doesn’t work out, especially if you have been through multiple of these or can’t even get to this point. However, as a point of view… Marry. If you make it to the end, it seems (according to those who have and have not so far), you will be better off (fulfilled, financially, etc.)

How?
What ruins relationships in my opinion is a lack of maturity. Maturity being defined as not letting outside or inside influences solely dictate one’s actions; to be able to think reasonably and communicate. This is incredibly hard, which is why most of us struggle. It’s not so much to do with age or how wealthy a person is. If we control ourselves, think reasonably, and negotiate/communicate, in my opinion, the better off we are.

Conclusion
Dating and nonetheless marriage is tough, but for some reason, a lot of us want to do it. There are so many ups and downs and arguments to be had, of course. However, in this point of view, I wanted to be as simple as possible with the little knowledge I have on his thing no one seems to have mastered but we continue to do. It’s purely opinion-based as there are truly no real facts on this subject. This is my best answer concerning romantic relationships.